Family Strong
I'm racing a death clock on someone that I thought I would never see again.
I got the call yesterday from my step-dad, John. I hadn't heard from him or my mother for over three years, so I was very surprised to hear his gravelly, but still somehow familiar voice on the other end. How did he even get this number?
It was hard for me to pay attention to what he was saying, because in my mind the lights were dimming and the stage was being set with the memory of their last visit.
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They breeze through town not quite four years ago, apparently moving to Knoxville,Tennessee, and thought it apt to find me. It had already been two years without seeing them before this meeting, and i had completely written them off. Only a few sentences were uttered during a torturous meal at Flat Branch. After a half-hour of silence my mother stands up, lays two crisp hundred dollar bills on the table, then turns to head out the door, John on her heels like the lap-dog he is. She turns back to the table and leans down by me. I can't meet her eyes. The last thing she said to me was "Have fun working in a warehouse your whole life." She had always been great at motivational speaking. With parents like these, who needs enemies?
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I try to focus back in on John's ramblings, but he's not making much sense. He was my mother's fifth husband, so I had never really tried to get close to him, and now this rambling loser is bothering me at work.
Interrupting his blather, I sigh out "Why are you calling me John? We have nothing to talk about."
"......Jeff..... she's sick. She's real sick and doesn't have much time left. I know this is a lot to ask of you, but she wants you here."
A muffled sob from his end makes this all too real.
"The doctors say it could be any day, and your mom really wants and needs to see you......please. Do you think you can make it?"
The desperation and fear in his voice sucks the air out of my lungs and leaves it almost impossible to reply. On some suicidal auto-pilot I croak," I'll be there."
That night i cried as i thought about our life when i was a little boy. It seemed that all we had was each other. A Snoopy blanket wrapped around us tight while watching a movie, or her bringing my breakfast to me in my favorite hiding spot. We were so similar back then, before it all changed.
My friend Jackie lent me her car the next morning and i was off.
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Crossing the Tennessee border, still about four hours away, I cant help but think of the downward spiral of our relationship. Of course we had fights about the various idiots she would marry on a whim, but inside we knew that our love was an unbreakable bond. That ended when I was fourteen.
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Growing up there was no one i loved as much as my grandparents, Mimi and Papa. I remember, before my father died, him saying that if I could love anyone the way i love them, the world would be an amazing place.
Once I was old enough to ride a bike, I started going over to my grandparents house every day after school. Walking through that door, my grandpa in his favorite chair, my grandma bustling around the kitchen trying to find me anything sweet. They were both diabetic, but kept a hearty supply of Little Debbie's just for me. I didn't really like sweets, but they never knew. This went on for years.
One day after school, I walked through the door just like normal. Grandma looked a little pale, but she smiled and handed me a piece of angel-food cake she had just made. Still warm, slathered with her homemade icing, i was in heaven. She even had the first boardgame out and set up.
About an hour into the game, my grandpa snoring loudly in his chair, i noticed a strange look on my grandma's face, like she was trying to remember something, but it was just out of reach.
I realized that she hadn't said anything in a while.
"Mimi........Mimi?" Nothing.
No recognition on her face, but her color was darkening into a terrifying blue. As my grandma slowly started sliding out of her rocker on to the living room floor, awareness came back to me.
Time seemed to have stopped. Just sounds. The ticking of the cuckoo that's been on the wall as long as I remember, the blaring television, that ridiculous snoring, suffocating me.
"Papa, wake up! There's something wrong with Mimi. Wake up!"
He gave me a sleepy smile until he read the fear on my face. I needed him to take control, but he seemed frozen, maybe as scared as I was. My mom and I had taken two different CPR classes together. The first for boy scouts and the second because i was always over here.
Mimi was a bigger woman, so i had to climb on her to start CPR. Papa was at their old rotary phone calling 9-1-1.
After I had given the first few breaths, i thought i saw some life creep back into her eyes. Then just as quickly, I saw it burn out completely. Through a downpour of tears, I kept trying to revive her, to no avail.
When the ambulance got there, she was already gone. Grandpa was collapsed in the corner, phone still in hand. I was still laying on top of her, my arms wrapped around her tight. I just couldn't let go.
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From that day on, my mom could barely look at me. She would snap at me for anything, no matter how trivial. She had always been somewhat emotionally impaired, but after Mimi's death she was almost unstable. We both knew that she blamed me for her mother's death, that I could of done something more. That thought never left my head, either.
A couple of years later, at the age of sixteen, she gladly signed for me to get married, and I moved right out. I saw her a few times when my son wiley was born a year later, and things seemed to brighten for her. The inevitable darkness took back over, though, and we didn't want her being near Wiley. I've seen my mom only four times since then.
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Two hours outside of Knoxville, I decide to pull over and take a breath. I've been so on edge this trip, almost to the point of panic attacks, that my body is completely worn out. I think it's time for some self-medicating.
Open the trunk to grab my little bag of tricks. Pop a xanax and a couple percocets, my go to stress relievers, grab a blunt and sit back in the front seat, radio on. The pills will hatch a plan with the pint of "crown" that I've been downing en route, and hopefully figure a way to even me out.
Parked beside an abandoned gas station, watching the traffic on the distant interstate, i finally start to calm down. It's funny how i need a tragic combination of ingredients just to feel normal. I didn't use to be like this. I close my eyes and lean back and start thinking about Megan.......
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After my divorce from my first wife, Jody, at nineteen, I decided to finish college in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, where they had the Recording Industry major that I wanted. My senior year I was twenty-one, because almost two semesters didn't transfer from Southeast Missouri State. I hadn't had anyone serious in my life since Jody. I honestly didn't think that i wanted to get that close to someone for a while, so when i met Megan and instantly fell hard, I was very surprised.
We moved in together right away and both knew how serious this was going to become. For a straight year, i was the happiest I had been since I had first married Jody. Possibly happier. There was nothing that we wouldn't do for each other and nothing we couldn't do.
When I decided that I was going to ask her to marry me, we drove back down to my hometown so that she could meet Jody and Wiley, and I could get their opinion of her. Jody and I had stayed very close, and always met each others partners if it got that serious. Jody and Wiley both loved her and were excited for me when they heard my plans.
I decided to call my mom and invite her over, even though I was very nervous about the meeting. Megan knew a lot about how my mom was, but I had still kept some things private. If it wasn't for Megan's persistance to meet her, i certainly never would have brought it up.
My mom picked up on the first ring like she was expecting a call, but didn't say anything at all when she heard my voice. I told her that I was in love again and wanted her to meet the woman that i planned to marry.
In a quiet voice, almost barely audible, she said 'no thank you' and hung up the phone.
The first thing I did when we got back to Murfreesboro was to get down on one knee and propose. Luckily she said yes, and for a while everything was great.
Almost three months to the day after she had said yes, Megan was killed in a car crash. The cops said it looks like she must have fallen asleep at the wheel and just driven off the road. Everything inside me fell to the floor, leaving an empty husk of misery. Jody and Wiley came up and stayed with me for a couple weeks, practically taking care of me like an invalid. I tried calling my mom at least ten times, leaving long,sobbing messages about how I needed her now more than ever. She never even called me back.
Being nothing but a shell, I filled myself with booze, coke,weed, and any kind of pill I could get my hands on.
I'm still that shell today.
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I was startled to see that it was now dark outside. I must have been asleep in this car for hours. My cell phone was crying out, and it took me a minute to find where it had slid to.
Without even checking the number, I fumbled it open and groggily muttered," Jeff here."
"You didn't make it, she's gone." It's John and he's fucking hysterical. At this point, I'm still out of it enough to where i don't even know what he's talking about. "You selfish little prick, where are you? She just kept asking for you right up until the end, racked with pain, and you're just taking your fucking time!?"
All i can think of to say is a weak and stunned "sorry".
Arrived at their cabin a little bit later, and all the lights were off. i knocked to no answer, but the door was open. It smelled like death in here, which i guess was fitting. I hadn't been here before, so i slowly maneuvered around the little cabin. As I walk into the kitchen, I see the slumped over body of John, sitting at the kitchen table in the dark, not moving.
"Where were you?", he grumbled without looking at me. Sounds like he also must of taken something to calm him down. I ignore the question and turn on a lamp on the far wall. He's staring down at the table to the envelope in his hands.
"She wanted to tell you so many things, to explain so many things, and you didn't give her that last wish. Honestly, I think she knew that you wouldn't make it so she wrote you this."
With that,he handed over the envelope. I accepted it from shaky hands and felt gratitude that he was in some kind of shock, a lot less yelling.
"If she wanted me here and wanted to make things right, why didn't she get ahold of me long ago? Why did she move all the way out here, away from everyone? Why did she write me off?"
Tears were running down my cheeks as John told me why.
Two days later, after the funeral, I climbed back into Jackie's car to start the journey home. The letter was on the seat next to me, still unopened. Thoughts were whipping around in my head. Take a breath Jeff.
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"She came here to die." That is what John told me. She had been battling cancer for a while. It would come and go, but she knew eventually it would come for one last dance. John said that she couldn't stand me watching her wither away. In his eyes noble, in mine, selfish.
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Roll the window down to grab a smoke and my eye catches the envelope. I put the cigarette back in the box and grab the letter from the seat. I want to open it and read it right now, but instead throw the whole thing out the window. I can be selfish too. Maybe we weren't that different.